This sounds so difficult for your family. I have been following you for a long time although I don't "know" you. I'm thinking about you and hoping you are doing okay.
I just posted on the RAM board. I am beside myself. We discovered last night that our son has ransacked our entire home for things to steal. He has been taking them to school and trading for things he wants. I have no idea how much he has taken even though we thought we were being really diligent on checking his backpack, pockets, etc. A wad of foreign currency that he had lifted from our dresser drawers was stuffed in a coin purse in his school desk. We travel for work and tend to keep left over bills for our next trip. It didn't seem to matter that Chinese currency and others couldn't be spent here. We are at our wits end. Have you come up with any ideas?
Cameras! We put a camera onto my rolltop into which we put everything: money, purse, chocolate chips, electronics etc. We set it to send me a text when anyone approaches the desk. No prowling at home since then -- just saves it for friends and relatives. :(
Would you like to talk? We just picked Alexander up from three weeks of respite at a therapeutic home run by a licensed, trained professional. Our therapist insisted we send him. He said my husband and I were suffering from PTSD and that we all needed a break.
I was really hesistant to do it and it broke my heart but it was the best thing for everyone. We couldn't believe how peaceful our home was while he was gone. 100% a different experience. Our daughter blossomed without him here. He has only been home less than 48 hours and already I'm tired.
The home takes in mostly children with RAD or other similar behaviors. The caregiver (KM) spoke with us for about 90 minutes when we picked him up. She is recommending, and our therapist concurs, that we place him with her for a year or even two! I don't know if I can do that yet. We are trying all alternatives but will consider it if we have to. Their view is that once she breaks the behavior patterns he can begin to instill new ones but until then he will believe that lieing, stealing, contolling and disruptive behaviors work for him.
I'd be happy to talk with you about her and our experience. I'm so sorry you're in the same boat we are. We have had cameras for ages and alarms on bedroom doors too. He still manages somehow.
This sounds so difficult for your family. I have been following you for a long time although I don't "know" you. I'm thinking about you and hoping you are doing okay.
ReplyDeleteHi Suzanne,
ReplyDeleteI just posted on the RAM board. I am beside myself. We discovered last night that our son has ransacked our entire home for things to steal. He has been taking them to school and trading for things he wants. I have no idea how much he has taken even though we thought we were being really diligent on checking his backpack, pockets, etc. A wad of foreign currency that he had lifted from our dresser drawers was stuffed in a coin purse in his school desk. We travel for work and tend to keep left over bills for our next trip. It didn't seem to matter that Chinese currency and others couldn't be spent here. We are at our wits end. Have you come up with any ideas?
Best,
Ronda
Cameras! We put a camera onto my rolltop into which we put everything: money, purse, chocolate chips, electronics etc. We set it to send me a text when anyone approaches the desk. No prowling at home since then -- just saves it for friends and relatives. :(
ReplyDeleteWould you like to talk? We just picked Alexander up from three weeks of respite at a therapeutic home run by a licensed, trained professional. Our therapist insisted we send him. He said my husband and I were suffering from PTSD and that we all needed a break.
ReplyDeleteI was really hesistant to do it and it broke my heart but it was the best thing for everyone. We couldn't believe how peaceful our home was while he was gone. 100% a different experience. Our daughter blossomed without him here. He has only been home less than 48 hours and already I'm tired.
The home takes in mostly children with RAD or other similar behaviors. The caregiver (KM) spoke with us for about 90 minutes when we picked him up. She is recommending, and our therapist concurs, that we place him with her for a year or even two! I don't know if I can do that yet. We are trying all alternatives but will consider it if we have to. Their view is that once she breaks the behavior patterns he can begin to instill new ones but until then he will believe that lieing, stealing, contolling and disruptive behaviors work for him.
I'd be happy to talk with you about her and our experience. I'm so sorry you're in the same boat we are. We have had cameras for ages and alarms on bedroom doors too. He still manages somehow.
My number is 650-935-2309 if you want to talk.
Ronda