tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17207835816598458602024-03-12T19:35:29.556-07:00Alphabet SoupCombine RAD, FAS, ADHD, PTSD, ODD; add a lot of Prayer and Determination; simmer for a lifetime. Hope for the best.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-2758554523691623822015-10-23T11:11:00.001-07:002015-10-23T11:16:33.973-07:00The Current Useful ToolThis is what is working well right now:
Naughtiness occurs, child is sent to the couch. When he or she stops huffing, rolling eyes, glaring etc., the process to be released from the couch can commence. I hamd them this piece of paper and a pen.
Of course next week will probably be a different story.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-80595909667689691072015-08-23T13:45:00.001-07:002015-08-23T13:45:50.464-07:00ShopliftingAfter years of being let off easy for shoplifting he is getting reamed over. She is threatening to have him arrested as our truck is sitting in the parking lot ready to head out for our first vacation in two years. He's terrified. THANK YOU Ace Hardware. Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-34094453520119264682015-06-22T20:59:00.001-07:002015-06-22T20:59:54.892-07:00Tweeted by @wearycookIs now confined to his room furnished with mattress, bedding, a bucket, and TP. Motion camera on door alerts us to any attempts to leave. http://twitter.com/wearycook
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-51492739457099368432015-06-22T20:48:00.001-07:002015-06-22T20:48:20.088-07:00Tweeted by @wearycookInstead of cleaning the basement, he was down there watching hardcore porn on the iPad, bypassing the restrictions with stolen passcodes. http://twitter.com/wearycook
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-52091208478643598982015-06-16T12:22:00.003-07:002015-06-16T12:56:48.464-07:00Tweeted by @wearycookDressed. Showered. Hid in bedroom until noon mustering up the courage to face the day. #incompatiblehats #lovingmom #watchfulguard via IFTTT
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-30314314766226709602015-06-16T12:22:00.001-07:002015-06-16T12:56:59.473-07:00Tweeted by @wearycookHow does one go on when one can’t go on? #cryingallthetime via IFTTT
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-37012616694885684822015-06-14T13:54:00.001-07:002015-06-16T12:57:09.766-07:00Tweeted by @wearycook
@wearycook : #parenting. A fresh train wreck every day.
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-8519181910475835752015-06-14T13:51:00.001-07:002015-06-16T12:57:16.756-07:00Tweeted by @wearycook
@wearycook : It's as if he is doomed to the institution. Started in an #orphanage. Next stop #jail? #mentalhospital?
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-64965892251615906812015-06-14T13:43:00.001-07:002015-06-16T12:57:23.213-07:00Tweeted by @wearycook
@wearycook : Yesterday he stood right in front of me and lied "yeah. Mom said I could. She wanted me to". #Infuriating.
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-41884818228642423082015-06-14T11:15:00.001-07:002015-06-14T11:15:17.427-07:00Encouraging words"This isn't your fault, you lifted him out of a very deep and hopeless hole and as discouraging as this is to you, you are the best thing that has ever happened to him and furthermore I love you and you are a good good mom."In response to my sharing that, if we could find somewhere else for Garbanzo to live, he would be gone. Endless trickery, deceit, stealing, lying. It's not gotten any better, Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-52871000422335578652014-11-14T14:25:00.000-08:002014-11-14T14:25:08.123-08:00DiscouragedHe's upped the stealing from gum to pocket knives, family jewelry, electronics, credit cards and cash. Where will it end?
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-42872899713837314732014-08-25T11:51:00.002-07:002014-11-14T14:25:37.483-08:00stealing, again, and againGarbanzo has an uncle that has invested a lot of time and energy in setting Garbanzo up with a mowing gig, mowing for both the uncle and the uncle's neighbor. We'll call him Uncle McGivor. Uncle McGivor's knife turned up under the bed that Garbanzo sleeps in over at his grandparents' house. That is, the bed he USED to sleep under, before he was banished from their house for stealing from Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-82261667804562288762014-08-10T10:48:00.002-07:002014-08-10T10:48:26.168-07:00stealingagain. more.
This time it was his Grandpa's class ring.
I am at a loss of what to do. He is impervious to punishments.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-71163598938862486172014-08-05T20:03:00.003-07:002014-08-05T20:03:59.122-07:00one thing that is workingTater has a really hard time controlling her temper. Anything that makes her mad makes her really really mad. Not getting her way, being told no, being told what to do, being corrected, being asked to do a job correctly, these all make her mad.
When she is mad, she is consumed by the mad. And the situation escalates into more and more bad choices.
Basically, she can't be Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-37462109602036747552014-05-29T09:44:00.001-07:002014-08-10T10:49:00.474-07:00Sugar
We've noticed with Garbonzo a strong correlation between the consumption of sugar and the increase of impulsive behaviors. For this reason, we closely monitor his sugar intake. After he's had sugar, he needs closer supervision and simpler tasks. We try to time the sugar intake for times where those accommodations can be made.
And when I mean impulsivity, I don't mean blurting out, or Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-50908346493188431412014-05-23T22:45:00.001-07:002014-05-24T13:08:43.919-07:00a tsunami of stealing and lying and sneakingToday he opened up the boxes containing the personal items of his late Uncle. Seeing stuff he liked, he took it. Confronted, he lied.
He also used a key he had previously stolen and stashed to access and pilfer from an off-limits area.
Yesterday he entered our bedroom and took out books that were off-limits. Apparently he's been tucking in there for awhile stealing his Unknownnoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-33566534623610146612013-01-18T09:56:00.002-08:002013-01-18T09:56:40.963-08:00stealing and lyingWe seem to be making no progress at all. He steals from stores. From family members. From us. And he lies so easily.
I am so discouraged.
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-24841922122898831792012-05-29T09:48:00.002-07:002012-05-29T09:49:39.554-07:00dripping and gloweringIt doesn't matter how early I start her, Tater comes late to breakfast, as in, arrives when breakfast is being cleared away. I think it has something to do with with early food deprivation, so I haven't the heart to consistently do the logical thing ("too bad so sad, you missed breakfast"). We have done that, but it had no impact and I couldn't shake the feeling that that was her Unknownnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-59684613458607986932011-10-30T23:03:00.000-07:002011-10-31T09:42:39.114-07:00GarbanzoHe's darling and helpful and bright and literary and hard-working and very often a joy.
He also smashes his sister behind the door so hard that the hinges rip out of the wall, threatens her with glass bottles, and frightens me.
Did I mention the time he started a fire in the upstairs bathroom?
Or the time he jumped into the driver's seat of my parent's van and rolled it into the garage wall?
Or Unknownnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-80921762912895302382011-08-25T19:09:00.000-07:002011-08-25T19:09:33.744-07:00yuckTater's constant oppositional and antagonistic attitude is wearing me out. My love bank is empty, my patience is worn thin. I don't even want to see her, much less mother her.
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-69875351283526986212011-08-15T11:22:00.000-07:002011-08-15T11:22:37.176-07:00Why Does She Do This?Tater & Garbanzo: fuss fuss
Tater & Garbanzo: bicker bicker
Tater & Garbanzo: fuss fuss
Tater & Garbanzo: bicker bicker
Tater & Garbanzo: fuss fuss
Tater & Garbanzo: bicker bicker
Me: If you two are going to fuss about the placements, you may be excused.
Tater: fuss fuss bicker bicker
Me: Okay, you are excused.
Tater: RAGE!
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-52387930775788967862011-08-14T11:32:00.000-07:002011-08-14T11:33:20.244-07:00BullyingThis is a post from earlier this summer . . . I'm not sure why it didn't post at the time. Garbanzo had been assigned the role of assistant director for a play.
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So, I pull into the theater and the director is waiting for me. Never a good sign. Apparently Garbanzo blocked a kid into the toilet stall, making him crawl out under the door and Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-19875881896314351512011-08-01T12:50:00.000-07:002014-05-29T11:07:41.064-07:00I got this in my email box today. I snipped out the identifying parts; I just wanted to share this part with you. The writer is talking about her daughter, also adopted as an older child.
Her Achilles heel is that she is insecure. Her insecurity presents itself as irritating behavior. She was obviously more hurt by losing her family, although she doesn’t have a Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-71333631504905954702011-07-31T18:30:00.000-07:002011-07-31T18:31:15.138-07:00not friends anymoreBeing told by Tater that you are no longer her friend is rather like being un-friended by the rooster. How is it going to look any different?Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1720783581659845860.post-1299127333945933372011-07-29T18:07:00.000-07:002011-07-29T18:07:35.520-07:00two-point shotsTater: I don't get this problem.
Me: "I don't get" is not a question.
Tater: This part.
(points to words that say So-n-so made 23 two-point shots. . . )
Me: Well, how much is a two-point shot worth?
Tater: I don't know! They never taught me that! How am I supposed to know?
Me: Well, you let me know when you are ready to tell me and then I will help you set up the problem.
Tater: (rages off)
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