Tuesday, December 4, 2007

to post or not to post? that is the question

This was written mid-November and I have been equivocating about posting it ever since then. Obviously I decided to post it.




We've had quite a trying two weeks with Young Garbanzo. I've been debating if I should post or not, as it seems a little odd to broadcast one's son's troubles, on the other hand, other families with children adopted at older ages may be able to advise or console me. Or at least we can say to each other, "what, you too?"

Here is what we have had in just the last two weeks.




He was asked to leave music class -- too disruptive.
He forged our sign-off on his homework.
He cheated on his spelling test.
He was asked to leave art class -- too disruptive.
He was sent to the principal's office twice, once for poking a classmate in the bum with a pencil, and I forgot what the other one was.
I personally pulled him off a schoolmate upon whom he had a choke-hold.
He has lied nearly everyday.
He has stolen his sister's money.

And you know what? If you met him you would be totally impressed with what good manners he has, what a charming and sweet boy he is. And he is! He is a great kid, except for when he isn't, then he really isn't. I guess I should give him credit for being thorough.

As much as the disruptive behavior must annoy his teacher, it's the keeping his hands to himself issue and the integrity issue that really worry me.

He comes by ALL his issues honestly. We completely understand why he is the way he is. This does not, however, inject us with renewed energy to deal with him. Unlimited commitment? Yes. But we are indeed weary.